Saying “[Insert character] is [insert headcanon] sorry I don’t make the rules” is the fastest way to ensure I won’t like your headcanon.
In case anyone was confused, here’s the gist:
“I think the character is (insert headcanon)”
✔ Okay
“This character is (insert headcanon). It’s canon, and if you don’t agree it is literally erasure and you’re a bigot. Sorry, but I don’t make the rules sweetie.”
❌ Yikes
It’s okay to have your own headcanons, no one is saying that you can’t. But when you start using passive agressive tactics in order to get people to accept it and keep insisting that it’s canon, that’s when you need to simmer down.
I hate that phrase so much that there’s fanart that is amazing that I don’t reblog because of that catty “sorry, I don’t make the rules” tag line attached to it. Cause it’s like “You’re art is great but that attitude is awful.”