Anonymous asked:
punispompouspornpalace answered:
#long post #nsfw
Hello anon!
First of all, please do not take this reply personally. I have been getting a message similar to this almost every time I reblogged SU fanart to this blog (among many other messages that asked me to use the tag Stephen Galaxy instead), and I know you all mean well, so I figured I should just explain my point of view on this matter.
I think there seems to be a really big misunderstanding about how this site operates. That’s fine! It took me a while to figure it out at first as well, so I will try to explain it to the best of my abilities:
Reblogs do not show up in the tags. I haven’t posted any nsfw SU art of my own so far, so all the porn I reblogged on here? The tags I put on them do not matter to people who aren’t following me, because they do not show up in the tags or the search! Only on my own blog. The only tags that matter are the those that the poster of the original used.
Furthermore, kids under 13 are not supposed to be on Tumblr at all. To quote the TOS:
You have to be at least 13 years old to use Tumblr. We’re serious: it’s a hard rule, based on U.S. federal and state legislation. “But I’m, like, 12.9 years old!” you plead. Nope, sorry. If you’re younger than 13, don’t use Tumblr. Ask your parents for a Playstation 4, or try books.
So, considering that anyone below the age of 13 isn’t even supposed to be on this site in the first place, the rest of this paragraph is going to be about kids age 13 and up.
At age 13+, they hopefully received a minimum amount of sex education (this might be different from country to country though - where I live we already got a rundown of the “basics” in elementary school), and had The Talk with their caregiver, especially if the caregiver is letting them surf the internet unsupervised.
Quite frankly, instead of being so aggressive about sexual fanworks, I think it’s a lot more important to foster an atmosphere of trust with your kids, so it’s safe for them to talk about this stuff to you without fear of getting into trouble.
I’m not saying that there’s no big deal about kids seeing porn, because yeah, ideally, they aren’t supposed to see that shit. But in this day and age? That’s laughably unrealistic.
Some stuff that I find more constructive:
- encourage your kids to talk to you about any weird content they see online instead of making this big scary boogieman out of it. If you treat sexual stuff like this awful forbidden despicable thing, the only thing you’re gonna achieve is that they feel ashamed and guilty when they do inevitably stumble upon that kind of content, and it will discourage them from talking about it to a trusted person because they will feel they did something bad and wrong by seeing it. It’s similar in principle to how abstinence only education doesn’t actually make teens less likely to engage in sexual behaviour, it just makes it less safe for them. (Here is an article on how Teenage Pregnancy in the US is most common in the states that teach Abstinence Only)
- Seriously, educate your kids about sex! Talk to them about consent. Encourage them to ask, to talk about their fears, about things they saw or that were said to them that made them uncomfortable. Talk to them how porn is not how things actually work, and about the harmful myths and body image it perpetuates, and how it’s not appropriate material for teens at that impressionable age. Give them resources (I really recommend Scarleteen for those from english speaking countries!)
- It’s unrealistic to expect teenagers not to be curious about sexual stuff at all. I certainly was at that age, and so were most of my peers. I know I’m repeating myself, but seriously, if you make them afraid of talking about it because you treat it like this awful shameful thing that should be hidden away, they will feel discouraged from asking you for advice, and they might turn to the general internet to have their questions answered - you don’t want that.
- I’m purposefully framing these as being addressed to the caregiver because, get this, your kid is your responsibility. If you want me to babysit them, you better actually pay me for it. I’m sorry if that sounds cold, but I basically don’t have a single nurturing bone in my body, which is why I don’t plan on having kids, ever. If someone who is underage messages me on this flagged, clearly marked 18+ only porn blog, all I’m gonna do is link them to Scarleteen, tell them to not go on my blog again until they’re of age, and block them. That’s where my responsibility ends.
Moving on.
Tumblr is a pretty well known platform for porn, and I’m not just talking about fanart, but videos and gifs of hardcore live action triple deepthroat double nasal fisting gang bangs (probably). There’s a chance of stumbling over porn even when looking for the most harmless things, aside from kid’s cartoons. In fact, let’s have a little experiment!
(Cut because this is getting longer that I anticipated, and there are gonna be images)
