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tomatomagica
usbdongle

having parents that were really angry and petty and abusive when you were young is weird, because it makes part of you grow up to want to be kind, to generate good things, to be a source of peace and wellbeing for others; but it makes another part of you grow up to be quick, and sharp, and spiteful, and that’s always the part that shows itself first in a hard situation, so it’s a struggle between your hateful gut reactions and your wish to not add any more misery to the world. it’s a hard balance, and the people who really, really know me - i know they see that anger flash in my eyes before i quiet it, if i quiet it…i want to overcome years of conditioning, and with gentle, constant force, i know i’ll mellow it. it just takes time.

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batmanrogues
gothhabiba

I hate… this line of thinking that’s like “imagine a world without Europe and what bliss it would be and how perfectly everyone would get along,” I really think it’s reductive

YES what Europe has done has been unique and on a scale that was unprecedented and white supremacy has wreaked global devastation etc. etc. However…. nonwhite / indigenous peoples around the world were not uniformly living in peace with each other like some noble s*vage-type fantasy would have you believe. and I feel like this is the same line of thinking that leads people to act like “poc countries” or whatever cannot be imperialist or carry out genocides or have systems of ethnic supremacy in the modern day.

the fact that unspeakable violence has been committed against a people or culture does not automatically mean that that culture is not or cannot have been violent in any way, just like (on the other side of this) a people or culture being violent does not mean that it deserved to be colonised or was improved by colonisation. this is a level of nuance that we should be capable of sustaining.

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jonostarsmcre
autisticlynch

compulsive lying is a symptom of mental illness, its very difficult and painful to bear and even worse to recover from. but it’s not discussed as such. when we talk about compulsive lying, we talk about the people who’ve been lied to, we use words such as manipulation and betrayal. we shun the person suffering from it and say it’s only justice. I’ve spent two years on this website and I’ve seen only one post showing support for those suffering for it and it has been derailed with the usual “no one will love you” and “you’re awful” comments. like you have no idea how exhausting it is to live in lies, you have no idea the level of self-loathing and distance from reality it entails. it’s called compulsive for a reason. people lying don’t mean to do it. they can’t help it. I suffered from it my whole childhood, due to abuse. it’s been hell recovering from it because I had no help, no one to turn to. you can’t open up about it to anyone because the ableism surrounding this particular disorder offers no mercy whatsoever. this needs to stop. compulsive liars need help not censure. they need to know that they’re not monsters, that they can heal. they need to know that they can be loved without relying on lies. these people are ill and lost and ultimately, they mean you no harm. they just can’t tell the difference between what is real and what is not. I understand not wanting to meddle with someone suffering from it, I understand the hurt it causes. but it’s nothing, nothing at all compared to the hell that is compulsive lying in a society that hates those afflicted with it on principle, I can assure you.

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